The Dreaded 'Talk'


Ever have those situations where the ‘talk’ is required?  Where part of the brain feels that things are out of balance but we keep doing what feels like the lions share of work to avoid the “dreaded talk”.  The talk where I express how I feel.  Then I imagine how the other person will launch into a series of justifications about their behavior.  I will hear how I am wrong to feel the way I do. They will feel hurt or criticized by what I say.  Even worse, they may disingenuously agree with everything I say to end the talk as quickly as possible.

“Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.” 


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Master Oogway on Kung Fu panda says it best “Yesterday is history.  Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift.  That is why it is called the ‘present’.”  We know this to be true.  This is an example of knowing does not equate to doing.  If we know this to be true, then what do we gain from dwelling in the past, or projecting into the future?  When we dwell in the past we experience depression.  We can project into the future we experience anxiety.  When we stay in the moment, we are at peace.  In this moment, is where peace dwells.


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Feel the Fear. Do it Anyway.


“I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it.  The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.” Nelson Mandela.

Perhaps when I was a child and lived a childlike existence I was not afraid. Perhaps there has never been a day when I’ve not felt some form of fear.  I used to reject the notion that I was afraid.  I didn’t like to admit that I even had fears.  I thought fears represented weakness; something I did not like to identify with.  Then I decided to feel; really feel; it most certainly was a conscious decision for me. That was hard because I realized so many of my feelings and thoughts were grounded in fear.  Many still are. (more…)

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Trust. Ego. Distrust. Confidence.

1. Trust

How apropos to use a football analogy given this weekends events.  Oh the quagmire of emotions this blog could stir up!  Most sports fans trust; if their team fails; they will prevail …. next time. Football stats aside, the motivation for today’s entry, is the realization that in the midst of failure, loss, regret and disappointment; trust can still be a choice.

“Someone who thinks the world is always cheating him is right.  He is missing that wonderful feeling of trust in someone or something.” – Eric Hoffer


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Hashtag FWP

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First World Problems.  Of more than 7 billion people, we hit the lotto. UNICEF reports 768 million people do not have access to safe, clean drinking water, and 2.5 billion people live without proper sanitation and 3.4 million die each year as a result.  Daily 2,000 children die.  So pretty much whatever happens to me today is at best a minor inconvenience.


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